So I’ve been wondering lately about a few things. When relationships end in SL be they partnerships, friendships or business why do SLers tend to burn bridges? In my 3 years in SL I’ve noticed a tendency for people to do cruel and crass things to people they formerly were close to. Is it the lack of personal, face to face interaction that feeds this revenge sort of behaviour? Having been on the receiving end of it I can say it really sucks that people can’t simply accept that disagreements will occur and to just get over it. Acting on your petty anger or perceiving that your so called SL honor has been slighted just diminishes yourself. It also hardens people against you.
I can honestly say that I haven’t been a saint here and I feel bad for stepping on some people. When I can I try to patch things up and when it’s hopeless I write them off as a casualty. Second Life is still a very small community and I think it would be in a person’s best interest to start treating others with respect. Especially those you disagree with. If you feel the need to lash out or otherwise harm someone you have a disagreement with it will only come back at you in spades.
Crap Mariner recently posted about anger and his SL experience. I feel in my case that forgiveness is harder to come by from me. I am pretty straight forward about who I am, what I want and what I expect from others. If you can’t accept the fact that I have feelings and I deserve a bit of dignity then I simply can’t be around you. Some people say that I have anger issues. I say that I have an aversion to selfish, shallow people who hide behind an avatar. Like Crap said, it’s a big grid and ditching the parasites , backstabbers, and the all-or-nothing types can lead you to better opportunites. I feel I am getting better and avoiding some people and situations that will cause me grief. But I walk the line between wearing my heart out on my sleeve and being hard-heated. Finding balance is tough and a never ending.