October 2007

I was appalled by what came across World of SL today in regards to Djdeurer Zou (DZ or DJ as some called him). The memory of this kind, gentle giant was being used by somebody else wishing to squeeze their sour grapes on a third party. What I have posted below is from a friend of mine who befriended DZ and what it meant to her life in SL and RL.



I was bored. I was wearing my short skirt, bling nipple rings, covered of course but blinging far and wide through my freebie leather jacket. Second Life to me appeared to be nothing but sexual islands and men running around with erect penises. (I had clearly been to the wrong places). “There must be some classy people here somewhere” I thought. “Maybe there are some wealthy and cultured men at a yachting club”.


I searched and found Nantucket and teleported onto a jetty. There was a man. No penis, no fancy skin, no chat up lines. And very oddly….no talking at all!


I said hello, but he did not answer. Now, when you are new in SL, you don’t understand about chat lag, AFK, invisible avatars……so I believed this person was truly ignoring me. I said “hello” again. Still no answer.


Off I walked and viewed the boats. Up one jetty, down the next. Then I arrived back where the man was. I said “hello” again. Still no reply. Determined, I asked “Do you have a yacht here?”


I walked away pretty much in disgust really at being ignored four times. Then……as I was leaving……I saw…….. “Yes”.


Maybe he does not speak English I thought.


Then the next word from him……..”Sail?”


This was odd. Not what I was used to. But clearly this man (who I assumed did not speak good English) was asking if I wanted to sail in his boat!


I accepted and never having done anything very interesting in SL, was quite excited. I was on my best behaviour and followed the man as he walked along the jetties to his yacht.


The sailing was just amazing! (Although in silence!) I had not experienced anything like it! I asked him if I could take photographs. He said “Yes”. The sea, the land, the turns, the commands, a skipper on a small yacht, sailing it just for me. I was so flattered. After a long time out to sea, we returned to the jetty. The man stood up and walked away, without a word, to the clubhouse.


Well, as I am a communicator, I really couldn’t accept this. I followed and walked to him and asked “What language do you speak?” No reply. There were others in the clubhouse. Ravishal and Izabella. Rav (who I had never met before) sent me an IM. “Have you read his profile?”


I was new, why would I think of that? So I did.


That was the moment that changed my Second Life.

Djduerer Zou – He described himself in his profile…….a retired sailor…….dying from a degenerative brain disease……..…unable to type………..SL is my life….……“I have no regrets………..I have lived life passionately“.


You know when you watched the film ‘Jaws’ – the moment when Spielberg showed Captain Brody sitting on the beach and he knew the shark had arrived, and the whole of the screen around him zoomed in? Well, that was the feeling I had just at that moment. I had been sailing with a kind and dying man who was living the last of his days here, in Second Life. My computer stood still in time and everything around it zoomed around. I had to behave differently, I understood that.


Djduerer managed to type “dance”.


“I think he is asking you to dance” wrote Rav in an IM.


After the dance I walked outside and stood Treacle looking out to sea. Thinking. I logged of and did my RL housework knowing I had met a man from Philadelphia who was ending his days here on earth.


After this day I returned two times to see Djduerer, and both times he took me sailing. I dropped the bling nipples and lengthened my skirt! I talked to him, not expecting a reply. I remember once as we were sailing saying to him “You must have had a wonderful life at sea”. His reply moved me…..”Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” he said.


Then a couple of weeks later I heard from Suzy Alpha, who lived at Nantucket, that Djduerer had passed away.


One year later this experience is always in my mind. I see young avatars having sex in bed shops, I hear them shouting grief at others, I see them falling in love and out again, but at no time has anything in SL ever taught me so much as the day I met Djduerer and discovered who was really behind the avatar! I see these young avatars ‘doing their thing’ and cannot help but wonder if they have given one moments thought to the other real person they are communicating with. I didn’t think of that until the day I met Djduerer. Now, almost every person I meet, I understand very clearly not to take it for granted that who I am talking to is represented in any way by the visual effect they are giving.


People come to SL for many different reasons and for every word they type there is an individual behind what we can see……..


I have used my experience of meeting Djduerer to explain to others who are new here about SL and for them to have an open mind.


I doubt my presence in SL meant much to Djduerer. If I kept him company for a few sailings, that makes me happy, however Djduerer’s presence in SL meant so much to me. He taught me the most important lesson I have learned here. I wish he was still around so I could tell him so. And I know others miss him more than me.




Treacle Darlandes.



Friday the 12th of October will mark 1 year of broadcasting in Second Life for me. At some point we all find our niche here and mine was broadcasting music. Previously I had dabbled in shoutcasting with a couple of streams when I first got DSL but I never bothered with an external server. In May of 2004 I began to broadcast in the real world with some low power Ramsey kits on FM and AM. I perhaps got out a kilometer or so with some decent antennas. My transmitters still run today filling my yard and most of the neighborhood with my music.

Venturing into Second Life I mostly heard canned and stuffy commercial stations Like Sky FM or Club 977. Talk about tight playlist! Sheesh, if it wasn’t a number one in the charts you didn’t hear it. That changed when I discovered the Mowry Bay Yacht Club in June 2006. The club owner Saxxon Domela streamed his own music into Second Life “The Rock of Mowry Bay”. I was almost there. I had a station already running but lacked the funds to procure a shoutcast stream.

In September 2006 my partner and her friend began to work in the East End sims (now known as SLNE). They had a stream that was only used a few hours a week for artist and a DJ. I offered my services for a nominal fee and signed on 12 October 2006. The name East End Radio was chosen after the name of the estate. My relations with the sim owner were at times contentious. It seems that her idea of good music varied from mine. Sometimes she would commandeer the stream and spin her own tunes (while sipping copious amounts of alcohol). Invariably with the exception for the random Britney Spears or Avril Lavigne song I had every song she played in my collection. During that time I did work a lot to quell her concerns as to the apparent randomness of my music. With the helpful suggestions of Gwen, Gayle, and Diana I devised a rotation to separate the up tempo, slow tempo and “oddball” songs into their own blocks to give a sense of consistency.

As time went on I learned a bit more and had fun getting on the microphone and holding impromptu events. It was stifling knowing I could only be heard in the East End sims so I handed the URL out to a few friends and it was well received in Hukilau. Ha Ha, take that B.C.! My station even charted in the shoutcast ratings list, not too far below Phreak and T1 Radio. One of my favorite duties I took on was Master of Ceremonies at the Nantucket Theater. When an artist like Louis Volare or Kori Travanti came to perform I would get on stage, crack open the mic and introduce them. That was so cool!

However things do change and East End Radio came to an abrupt end in February… More about this and it’s relaunch as KONA Radio in my next installment.


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Wow, sometimes a good time just jumps up and grabs you! It all started when my friend Amanda Steadham informed me that Star Yue, in real life Gerald Brann an Elton John tribute artist , was coming in world to give a short concert for his most loyal fans. For those of you who have never seen or hear Star Yue just let me tell you he is possibly the best Elton John tribute singer. Apart from the fact he lacks a British accent his execution of Elton’s songs are flawless and keep all the original flavor and spirit of his music. Below are some pictures I snapped at the show”

Star Yue 2Amanda Steadham

Star Yue 1

After the show I hurried off to Grizzy Griswold’s 6 month anniversary of his cafe:
Grizzy 6 mos party

Kate Amdahl Showed up with her lovely set of wings and when I switched back to my black skin she joined me 🙂

Kate Amdahl
Kate Amdahl 2

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